Happy New Year!
A time for beginnings and fresh starts. Relationships, Finances, Health, Career, you name it; we all make promises we intend to keep. What better time to do this than the start new year, right? After all, from Halloween through New Year's Day, we've had the license to splurge, with the promise that we would make good on our goals once the holidays were over. Never mind the fact that we've never once seen any of our resolutions make it through February.
But here we are! It's now January and time to make good on those hasty promises.
Happy fun time is officially over.
Time to dig in, buckle down, and get to work.
And this is why most resolutions die so quickly on the vine.
No more fun?
Getting to work?
There's nothing enjoyable about this whole setup. Enjoyment must be the underlying motivation of anything worth doing consistently. Consistency is what breeds habits.
As humans, it is in our DNA to take the path of least resistance and to seek pleasure over pain. No sense in making things harder or more time consuming when they don't have to be. Therefore, our habits are the routine choices we make to maximize our quality of life with our allocation of time and resources. We rely on these habits because they give us a feeling of control over life. Even when the habit is bad or becomes obsolete, we cling to what we know because it makes us feel normal, and normal is safe.
Then we wake up one day and realize that our habits aren't meeting all of our needs. Some habits may even be leading us down a very bad path. This usually comes in the form of an empty wallet or not being able to see one's own feet when standing up. Sometimes it is more severe, like walking out of a doctor's office with news that your bad cholesterol is the highest your doc has ever seen and you have high blood pressure to boot! So, we eventually come to grips that a change is overdue.
Now we're talking talking swapping out bad habits that provide us with perceived efficiencies and feelings of safety for a new method of living that only hints at a long term benefit. Sounds overwhelming, doesn't it?
Putting that way, it is.
One just doesn't completely jettison a way of living for something completely new, overnight, and expect to maintain it for long.
It's even more difficult to overlay a new set of rules onto existing habits, because there are only so many hours in a day.
So, how does one flip that switch and commit to a major lifestyle change?
More to come....